Psychotomy

ok, first off, we’re not sure which last name we’re going to use.  mine or hers.  she’s not attached to hers, and it’s “natural” for the woman to give up her name.  blah blah blow me.  tradition my ass.  i’m not really attached to mine, especially since my dad’s brothers are both guptas.  something about castes and subcastes and it’s not a family name but a societal declaration.  gupta is like government or bank maybe, money man.  singhal seems to be white-collar educated technical dude.  but i’m not sure.  but singhal doesn’t draw me too strongly one way or the other.

we’re looking at either “desmond” or “gareth” at this point, for a first name.  we looked at a bunch of others, and had a shortlist of 6 or so (until we learned the gender, a boy was going to be desmond; once we learned the gender we decided we would look more and make a “big decision”; desmond’s made it to the final 2 anyway, handy). to be fair, both names (and moreso desmond) violate one of the pseudo-rules i was applying to offerings from the books:  not a well-known name, product, or gag.  desmond lewellyn (Q form the bond movies) and gareth blackstone (Chef from Chef! (BBC)).

otoh, both are basically the only shots i came up with, and neither is particularly well known (TBH Q was where i originally suggested desmond from, but unless a second kid is named lewellyn (which would probably be more after the dragon in ozy and millie comic) it’s not likely to be caught)

i remember alistair, sebastian and damian were on the short list.  there were a couple others, which were likewise good, but we slowly dropped it to the two.  we’re both good with either, and it will likely be desmond, irregardless of her mom’s dislike of the fact that the nickname is “desi” of “desilu productions” (desi arnez; lucy’s husband) … but, yaknow?  i’m thikning there’s a very limited number of people gonna make that connection, even if mom does insist on buying the boy bongos and conga drums.  but she prefers desilu to gary b/c “it’s …he’ll be called gary!!!” (said in front of family friends, his name being gary :o)

since we’re homeschooling, and both names are two-syllables but easy, i’m not too worried about nicknames.  and i honestly think it’d be des and garth (which i’m not fond of garth, but we’re talking about their friends and the 5-10 period; if they want to be called garth, it’s their choice, later in life, and preteens won’t likely use a nick anyway, unless the real name is long (nicholas, sebastian, alistair, etc; 3-syll and up ; 2syl doesn’t “need” shortening)) rather than desi and gary

Posted in: PI by attriel /