Psychotomy

my grandmother and aunt made some clothes (crochet) for the baby.  i’m kinda disturbed by the “diaper cover” (they’re not shorts, it’s closer to a pair of crocheted underwear … it goes over the diaper to hide it or something; i doubt that’ll see much use b/c it just disturbing), and kiir didn’t like some of the stuff.  blankets, hat, cardigan, booties.  i think it was the color or something.

but when my mom brought it down, since grammy was there for xmas (and THAT hasn’t happened for YEARS), before she gave me the bag she says “you can look at it now, since your grandmother’s here, but you cna’t have it until the baby shower” … b/c i was going to try to steal it or something?  jeesh, kid’s still 4mo out, i don’t think i need to be swiping handmade baby clothes, yaknow?

it was nice overall, assuming you ignored the proto-arguments (my grandmother is turning into her mother: argumentative, always right, and opinionated; so, like me, but without the deep sarcasm ; and even i try to hold my tongue around holiday and family, really i do!).  got a bunch of things we’d asked my parents for; gave my grandmother her gift from last year, since we didn’t really see her at all in the intervening year :/  drove her home after dinner.  35mi from my parents to her house.  45 from there to our house :o  so that answers her question of “who’s closer” (which was kinda silly, since whoever took her home had to go SOMEWHERE after ;o)

been reading on a log of blogs with kids about the holidays and how hard it is having to go back and forth between families.  or, the luckier ones where it’s a switchoff year by year.  i’ve always liked our arrangement, and reading everyone elses horror stories …

we spend tday with my inlaws (at their lakehouse these days, oi) and xmas with my folks.  neither family is really religious (jewish and christian gone jew, vs hindu and christian; and then our hindu & jewish), but since my mom has always done xmas (there’s no christ in our xmas!) and her family is more hannukah-y, it makes sense.  i don’t see that really changing, even with a kid, so it’s really nice.  at t-day, my sister-in-law’s in-law’s insisted that she was supposed to spend t-day with them this year since last year was with her parents.  and by “her parents” we apparently ignore “and us and our relatives” since both families were together last year :o  i think it’s b/c t-day dinner was at my inlaws (even though we went to her inlaws the next night), so it counted as “her family”‘s turn …

yeah, ok, whatever.  our way is so much more convenient.  and if someone starts kvetching, i’ll just stay at MY place with the baby, and they can damned well come to me! :)  actually, thats kindof what my parents did with most of hte holidays.  as someone had a child, they’re house became the place for the holiday.  well , that might have been helped by my dad’s family not celebrating any of hte same holidays, being on a different continent, or the fact that we didn’t really go that often to visit that we needed to worry about “balance” …

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